Wednesday 15 June 2011

Parents Relations and Children

Relations between parents are very important and any hitch between them would cast its shadow on the child's future. Children will be sensitive, innocent and they did not understand the complexity of the problems between father and mother. They could not understand why their parents are entering in to quarrels.

In this backdrop, parents must note that skirmishes between them would have their adverse effect on their kids. It is advisable to keep the differences between them to themselves and did not show them before the children. Whenever parents wants to vent out their ire, they shall do it out of the house or in secrecy.

Relations between the husbands and wives are becoming more fragile these days. The changing world is imposing lot of stress on the relations between the husband and wife and increasing the distance between them. This is much prevalent in the homes where parents both are employed.

Now a days the parents are having different tastes and preferences. If the husband want to spend less, wife demands more spending and vice versa. Selection of home, car, fridge and other house hold items also may cause clashes between wife and husband. It is pathetic to note that for several times parents did not bother to come to an understanding.

As the parents try to have their say in running the house, a gap takes place between them. If they did not realise it in the early days the gap widens and finally the marriage ends up in divorce. This is leading to single mothers.

Bad relations between the parents will put lot of stress on the children. Children fear about these clashes and start thinking about them. This will divert their attention and causes failures. Some times this will make the children to develop bad ideas about the marriages and about their parents.

Usually children like to be with father and mother. They did not want a division in their family. If mother leaves home forever, they miss the father. If mother gets married with another person that will cause pain in them. The step father or step mother may not provide the same love and affection to them.

Broken relations between the parents will cause fear psychosis among the children and they will live with it in the entire life. They may lose their confidence in the marriage bond. They might become addicted to alcohol and drugs. This will spoil their life forever.

A bad mother will create hate in the children toward all female and a bad father will create hate about all the male. Even children may lose interest on their life and they lead a sedentary life.

Whenever parents find gap between them, it is advisable to avoid a clash before the children. It is better to discuss the differences in the bed room and try to sort out them. Parents shall not sit alone at home and do not show sad mood. Whenever children are around them it is advisable to play with them.

Mothers shall not weep before the children as they did not understand the cause. Father or mother shall not scold their spouse before the children. This will create bad opinion among the kids. It is advisable not to tell the differences between them to the kids as they did not understand.

If the parents have decided to divide, it is better to maintain good relations with the kids. They shall call the child every day find out what they are doing. Children shall be taken out weekly once so that they can enjoy he company of parents.

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