Parents Relations and Children

Relations between parents are very important and any hitch between them would cast its shadow on the child's future. Children will be sensitive, innocent and they did not understand the complexity of the problems between father and mother. They could not understand why their parents are entering in to quarrels.

In this backdrop, parents must note that skirmishes between them would have their adverse effect on their kids. It is advisable to keep the differences between them to themselves and did not show them before the children. Whenever parents wants to vent out their ire, they shall do it out of the house or in secrecy.

Relations between the husbands and wives are becoming more fragile these days. The changing world is imposing lot of stress on the relations between the husband and wife and increasing the distance between them. This is much prevalent in the homes where parents both are employed.

Now a days the parents are having different tastes and preferences. If the husband want to spend less, wife demands more spending and vice versa. Selection of home, car, fridge and other house hold items also may cause clashes between wife and husband. It is pathetic to note that for several times parents did not bother to come to an understanding.

As the parents try to have their say in running the house, a gap takes place between them. If they did not realise it in the early days the gap widens and finally the marriage ends up in divorce. This is leading to single mothers.

Bad relations between the parents will put lot of stress on the children. Children fear about these clashes and start thinking about them. This will divert their attention and causes failures. Some times this will make the children to develop bad ideas about the marriages and about their parents.

Usually children like to be with father and mother. They did not want a division in their family. If mother leaves home forever, they miss the father. If mother gets married with another person that will cause pain in them. The step father or step mother may not provide the same love and affection to them.

Broken relations between the parents will cause fear psychosis among the children and they will live with it in the entire life. They may lose their confidence in the marriage bond. They might become addicted to alcohol and drugs. This will spoil their life forever.

A bad mother will create hate in the children toward all female and a bad father will create hate about all the male. Even children may lose interest on their life and they lead a sedentary life.

Whenever parents find gap between them, it is advisable to avoid a clash before the children. It is better to discuss the differences in the bed room and try to sort out them. Parents shall not sit alone at home and do not show sad mood. Whenever children are around them it is advisable to play with them.

Mothers shall not weep before the children as they did not understand the cause. Father or mother shall not scold their spouse before the children. This will create bad opinion among the kids. It is advisable not to tell the differences between them to the kids as they did not understand.

If the parents have decided to divide, it is better to maintain good relations with the kids. They shall call the child every day find out what they are doing. Children shall be taken out weekly once so that they can enjoy he company of parents.

Sexual Abuse of Children

Child abuse is much prevalent in many countries and this is a worrying factor for the parents and for the activists of child rights. Particularly sexual abuse is a much worrying factor. Unfortunately most of the countries are not considering it as a serious issue.

Children are the most vulnerable people in the world. As they are innocent, do not know what abusing is and could not report it to the parents and become silent victims of this menace. Parents also could not find out this abuse, until abuse manifests itself in any form.

Parents and teachers are the key players in preventing this and they have to be pro active. They have to teach their children particularly the female children about the abuses and tell them to report it, whenever it takes place.

Unfortunately, parents and teachers did not tell the kids what is sexual abuse. They feel shy to speak about these issues and feel sensitive. Many parents even shy to speak about the private parts of the human beings. This is aggravating the situation and causing abusing menace.

Child abuse could be of several types. Kids may be asked to show their private parts, private parts may be touched, elders may show their private parts, kids may be asked to see their own private parts, they may be asked to speak about private parts. Some times children may be told to pronounce obscene words and etc.

In few cases male child may be asked to perform sexual activities like chewing others' private parts. Female child may be raped and their breast may be squeezed by elders. Not only at private parts, the abuses takes place in the other parts of the body. Children's cheeks, thighs, buttocks and other parts will also be abused.

Children innocently fall prey to these sexual predators. They do not know what they have under gone. They only remember these abuses only when they feel pain,

In these circumstances parents and teachers have to be proactive to prevent these occurrences. Parents must tell the children about the private parts and why they are being hide. They shall tell in simple words about the functions of private parts and tell them not to allow anyone to touch them and speak about them.

Parents and teachers must also tell the children to protest any sexual assault or touch. Parents and teachers need not shy to tell them. They simply can tell that private parts are much important in life and they shall be protected from others.

Just this simple advice will convey a lot to the children and they will understand. At school teachers have to tell the functioning of private parts and also what use they are off, after kids grow in to adults. Children must be told not to do any experiments with the private parts.

Child activists could bring about booklets about the private parts being written in simple and enlightening ways. Each child must be told about the changes occur in the body as they grow adult and what are the consequences of these changes.

Usually those near to the children indulge in abuses. Uncles, cousins who have crossed the age of 18 years, neighbours and those who move closely to children indulge in these activities.

Governments must introduce subjects about sexual abuse in the school curriculum and special work shops should be held to educate the children.

If a child is severely abused and sustains bleeding injuries at the private parts, will continue to fear about sex in the entire life and lose interest in it and become isolated.

Aliens and Children

Aliens are the most attractive subject for the children now a days. In the conversations of most of the children aliens do take place. This shows how much interested are they in aliens. However it did not cause any damage to children. Rather than it expands their imagination capacity and keeps them busy.

If we ask ourselves why aliens attract children, the obvious answer would be the news about them in the TVs and news papers, films on that subject and fears that aliens might attack earth any time. Here parents do not have much role.

But like any other habit, aliens might also become an addiction to the children and few of them might try to contact them. They may make experiments being suggested by those who did not have much knowledge. In this back drop parents have to be cautious and warn children about the dangers of trying to contact those, whom we did not know.

So far no credible evidence is being presented to the world about existence of aliens. No one could say surly whether people  on the other planet are friendly or not.

Aliens is not only a hot topic among children but also in the youngsters. Even elders also show interest about aliens occurrence and news about flying soccer.

In fact aliens is a very interesting subject. Since the man entered in to space, so much thought has been given to this subject. Many writers, intellectuals and astronomers are discussing whether there is life outside out planet. Several novels being written about the aliens and their behaviour. If there is life, like human beings on the earth, on another planet, whether they are much intelligent than us or not is the moot question of these discussion.

Those who have the knowledge of aliens usually think about how to deal with them, if they are seen really on the earth. How could we communicate with them? Whether they are friendly creatures or not, are the some of the questions nagging the enthusiasts.

Now we discuss whether we shall allow the children to think about the aliens or not. My opinion is that they shall be allowed. While thinking about the aliens children come across several issues related to astronomy. They can gain the knowledge of planets, galaxies, how life emerged on the earth and other issues relating to celestial matters.

Of course the shows on the TV did not give much knowledge about the aliens but, the books, articles and documentaries do give lot of knowledge. Parents can leverage this opportunity and divert the attention of children who are much interested in celestial things toward astronomy.

Future much promises about the opportunities in astronomy field. Research, engineering, IT related activities and others will give lot of job opportunities to the children when they go for jobs. So far no subject is not introduced about the life on other planets. In this context parents shall help the children by giving books about astronomy.

Aliens, itself is a much enthusiastic subject. As we feel so lonely on  our earth, people on the other planets also feel the same way. Once we come in to contact with other world, our knowledge will not find no bounds.